No Two Holidays Are Ever Alike

Ever think back on your family gatherings, especially at Thanksgiving & Christmas, and realize none are exactly identical? 

I love the idea of family traditions, but I also know the changes in our individual lives tend to “tweak” those times we are together.  I think the hardest seasons are when someone dear to us is missing from our company.

This year at Thanksgiving, Kathy and I joined her parents at my sister-in-law Carrie’s house. We didn’t have our 3 kids with us. It was a disappointment, but we didn’t let that drag us down. What we did have were two visiting Asian students, Angela from Hong Kong and Risako from Japan. They enjoyed their first Thanksgiving meal with us, followed by a rousing game of Uno. That day will become its own very special memory.

It’s good to cherish those special times.

Do you ever put extra pressure on yourself to try and duplicate a special time in your  life… maybe wondering if you can measure up to that fond moment or tradition?  At this point, please take a deep breath, and repeat after me:  “I don’t have to recreate the past”.

What you and I can do is focus on how we can make today special. And guess what, that can be a lot more fun!

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  1. VictoriaL_2 posted on 11/28/2012 09:37 AM
    I too had a Thanksgiving without some loved ones. Both my parents have passed away and my youngest daughter just moved into her own house in October so she was unable to come home for Thanksgiving. It just didn't seem the same without them there, especially my daughter. She was always such a big help with the preparing of the feast and her awesome pies. My niece did come and help me out which I greatly appreciated, but it just wasn't the same. I guess it's just that connection that a mother has with her daughter that is so special. She made her own Thanksgiving feast in her new home and said everything turned out great. I'm proud as she had learned a lot from me and thats truly a blessing to me !!
  2. SusanM_0447 posted on 11/28/2012 10:32 AM
    I lost my son years ago and each major holiday was so dreaded I prayed for December 26th, so I could move on again. Now my mom is missing from our festivities as well. Now what? But I want others to know, eventually, you find your way back. Sweet things the little ones do and say make you happy. Don't pressure yourself but If something makes you smile or you hear yourself laugh, enjoy the moment. It is priceless. And now, I even feel like sending Christmas cards again - something I couldn't do for 21 years. It takes time, but the Lord is gentle with us until we FEEL again.
  3. TeresaA_3 posted on 11/28/2012 10:59 AM
    Yes I know what that is like. This year my son now for his birthday was on thanksgiving day. we had fun but was alot of left over food only because a lot of our family didn't show up like they said they would. it was fun we had a good time and his dad cooked for his birthday with the help of my sons grandma. if i didnt have people like them i would feel lost. what next year brings is for god to decide and i am praying it will be good. all i know is that god has a huge change for me soon. just pray it is a good on for my babies.
  4. RachelR_8 posted on 12/01/2012 11:50 PM
    SusanM_0447: Thank you for that last line you shared-"And now, I even feel like sending Christmas cards again - something I couldn't do for 21 years. It takes time, but the Lord is gentle with us until we FEEL again." It encouraged me tonight!
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