We live in a region marked by turbulent weather. I’m often moved by the symphonic force of wind-churned waters on the Puget Sound or Lake Washington. These same forces remind me how fragile life can feel when we’re being pulled under by our emotions, and tossed about by transitions or relational conflict.
In my own dark nights, counseling has been a life preserver. Over time, however, therapy should become more than a lifeline or storm shelter. A deep, guttural question surfaces, one Jesus was fond of asking: What is it you really want?
In our work together, do you want to simply treat symptoms and master coping skills that tame the soul and keep life at bay? This might be necessary for a season, but I also want something more for you. My hope is that we can bravely grieve the losses, and tend to the embedded beliefs and fears, that are inhibiting deeper healing and transformation. As the writer Parker Palmer puts it, “Sometimes, the way to God is down.”
What I Offer in Christian Counseling
The counseling I offer can be described as a pilgrimage with a trusted companion-guide. I identify with the daring, seafaring ventures of St. Brendan the Navigator, a 6th-century Irish abbot whose monks banded together – in rawhide-bound skiffs called currachs – to explore the ‘desert of the sea.’ They risked discovering the depths of God and themselves, and it changed the course of history.
Sometimes we need counseling not simply because we’ve lost our inner compass, but because God is inviting us to unmoor our boats from the shores of self-reliance. My desire is to join you on this journey – as it’s not meant to be taken alone.
It takes courage to be seen and heard in new ways. What I provide is more than a professionally trained ear, but a presence of heart and mind, and the insight to help you cast new vision and direction for your life. What you might judge as a painful, hopeless wasteland, I may see as a fermenting work of the soul, where new life is being provoked. Counseling often moves people to develop the life skills of both self-confrontation and self-compassion, which are best learned in a trusted relationship.